So, you’ve decided it’s time for a serious reset at 35. That’s brave—and honestly, it’s more common than you think. But here’s the not-so-secret truth: you can’t (and shouldn’t!) do it all alone. If you want this reset to stick, you need people in your corner. Let’s talk about how to actually build a support network from scratch—even if you feel a little lost right now.

Why Your Network Matters (Especially Now)

Mid-thirties resets are radical. You’re leaving behind routines, maybe even relationships, that no longer serve you. That can be lonely. But strong support systems do more than just cheer you on. They help you stay accountable, offer fresh perspectives, and—let’s be real—sometimes just remind you you’re not the only one figuring it out.

Step 1: Audit Your Current Circle

Take stock of who you spend time with. Are these people helping you grow, or pulling you back into old patterns?

• List your closest 5-10 connections. How do you feel after hanging out with each?
• Notice who supports your reset (and who doesn’t).
• Be honest: Is it time to lovingly distance yourself from anyone?

Step 2: Expand Your Tribe—Strategically

Making new friends at 35 can feel awkward, but it’s 100% possible (and crucial for a fresh start). You don’t have to settle for surface-level small talk or networking events that make your skin crawl.

• Start by pursuing interests you actually care about—think classes, meetups, or volunteering.
• Be the initiator. Invite someone for coffee or a walk. Low-pressure = high success rate.
• Get comfortable with discomfort. The first few tries might be weird. Stick with it.

For a full game plan, check out How to Make New Friends at 35 (Without the Awkward Small Talk).

Pro Tip: Quality Over Quantity

Don’t try to build a massive network overnight. One or two new, supportive friendships are worth more than dozens of lukewarm acquaintances.

Step 3: Invest In (and Ask for) Support

True support networks are a two-way street. Don’t just take—give, too. Here’s how:

• Be honest about what you need. People can’t help if you don’t ask.
• Offer your skills or time in return—everyone loves a win-win.
• Check in regularly, even if it’s just a quick text or meme.

Resetting? You’re Not Alone

Starting over at 35 is gutsy, but you don’t have to do it solo. Lean into community—old friends, new allies, mentors, even online groups. The right people will help you go further, faster (and make the journey way more fun).

Ready for a full reset guide? Head to How to Reset Your Life at 35 for more step-by-step help.