You might not expect loneliness to hit you at 35, but when you hit the reset button on your life, it can sneak in hard. If you're starting over—new city, new job, new phase—here's how to fight isolation and build a real support system you actually want around you.
Why Loneliness Creeps In During a Life Reset
Transitions shake up your routines. Old friends drift. Familiar faces fade. Suddenly, it’s you, your thoughts, and a glaring silence. Resetting your life at 35 is brave, but it can also be lonely—especially if your social circle doesn’t come along for the ride.
First: Acknowledge and Normalize It
Everyone feels lonely sometimes. At 35, it can sting more because you’re "supposed" to have it all figured out. Truth? Most people don’t. Give yourself permission to feel it without guilt.
Action Steps
- Journal about what you miss most—old friends, routines, or just the sense of belonging.
- Remind yourself: You’re not behind, you’re just in transition.
Get Tactical: Rebuild Your Social Circle
Don’t wait for connection to happen by accident. Make it a project—one that deserves your energy and time.
- Start by making new friends at 35—awkward small talk is optional.
- Reflect on your social script—what kind of people do you want around you this time?
- Follow practical tips to rebuild your social circle from scratch.
Build (and Lean On) Your Support Network
It’s easy to think you have to tough it out solo. But letting people in—family, new friends, even online communities—makes the reset less daunting.
- Identify safe, positive people to trust with your feelings.
- Check out advice for building a support network tailored to your new life stage.
Keep the Momentum Going
Combating loneliness is an ongoing process. Celebrate the small wins—a new conversation, a group chat, a coffee invite. These moments add up. And when you need a deeper dive, revisit the full guide on How to Reset Your Life at 35 for more strategies and stories.